Sunday, 5 March 2017

Your friends. Never let them go!


Friendship... #Squad - The best one maybe or just a good one.
It takes years to build that trust, faith, understanding between the 2!
Sometimes... It's not just amongst those 2 people. You also have a group, a group of some close buddies. Where if one isn't there, it seems like a tyre is missing from the four wheeler.
Like you can't drive a car with only 3 tyres... The same way, the relationship of friendship is a car and the wheels are its base, the most important.
Yes, a tyre does get punctured. But you always get it done because you want that tyre to run your car, basically, your relationship... And you don't wanna lose it.
There are so many potholes and small rocks you face and cross over, but you still a mange to drive it away with each other's support.
Like the same way, you have so many problems in this relationship. But you still manage and run this relationship... Not because it's a necessity of life, but because your life's nothing without that important term - FRIENDSHIP.
You have so many other relationships to maintain. But why is it that you only can be yourself in front of your friends? Because they understand you well. They've been through the same thing at one point of their lives.
They say, it's very important to choose your group wisely. But I think, no matter how your friends are... If they still hold closer to you, they understand you at some point. It takes time, but they do. So it should be said like, "Manage your relationship wisely!"

When you call them your "mains" or "squad", you mean it. When you do have a large group of 15 or stuff, it's always not necessary to be close to everyone, because it just can't happen. You tend to have just 3-4 people that are really close to you.
But what if your group anyway just consists 4 or 5 people? Can you just make out your important ones out of just 4 or 5? No! Coz here, everyone are.
It works with all of the members' decisions, choices and a collective thought. You do hold grudges amongst yourselves but you get it solved in the end. Why wouldn't you?
You cry for them. Why? Of course coz you've felt hurt. And why would you feel hurt? Of course, coz you're close to them and they matter a lot.
You do feel bad with someone's decisions but you have all the rights to let him/her know what's wrong and what's right and also that opposite person should listen and understand and I guess, that's how it works.

At some point of time, you will feel that the remaining group is going against you... Why? Coz they don't like you? No! It's coz they don't want to support your wrong choice or decision. It's very awesome if people from your own small group of 4 or 5, completely go against you coz they care and want you to always know what's wrong and make you wanna accept your mistake. They don't do it coz they want to deliberately make you wanna feel small and out of the group. But that they really care for you and not always bear your tantrums and also wanna make you ready for your future. You'll never understand that it's for the future life, and at that very moment, you would feel really bad or shattered. But, in the course of time, you come to know that it was for you. So that, when you go ahead in life... You know how to tackle things.
When you give your "squad" the power of loving you and you loving them back, you also give them your responsibility and the power to hurt you when you need it at some point. Because, feeling hurt is equally important as being loved.
They shout at you, get pissed, slap, kick you because you're wrong there and that you need to accept it. This also is a way of showing their love for you. When you have fights with them you need to stop it when you know you're wrong or when if you don't know whether you are wrong and the whole group go against you, you need to understand and realise. Hence, it's very important to not fight over issues that won't matter in future. And past never even matters in present. Sometimes, you gotta let go certain things coz every relationship works on compatibility and understanding and letting go of things because you want to save that relationship.
Like maintenance is a part of having a machine... Coz you need to keep it running smoothly.

If they shout at you or scold you, it's for you and not them.

But, in the end, it all depends on you and how sportingly you take it. When you leave your teenage years, it is said that you are completely matured. But maturity comes with what you face in your life. And you have friends and your parents who make you face everything.
Life's an airplane with 2 wings: Parents & Friends. You know what you lose when you lose one of the these. Even though you're the pilot of your plane, you won't ever be able to control it.

Go on and enjoy every moment with your group and never waste one. So when if you're not in everyday touch of each other, and you feel nostalgic, all you have is the good memories you have had with them. Friends are the building blocks of your life.